Perception versus reality

I have always looked at other people and thought how 'perfect' they were, their lives, their relationships, their careers and have wondered that there here must be people who'd be thinking the same about me. It is easy to project your own perceptions on people, places and build your own quasi visual vocabulary – adjectives pour in, even if you don’t want them to.
She is a bit self-indulgent.
He is a little judgmental, too clinical, and a bit too proper…
And then you try and minimize the effect, by interludes. Is it really possible not to be judgmental?